Maternity Bereavement Care
The soft furnishings and ambient lighting has been provided by local families who have raised money to help improve the facilities and care for bereaved families.
Occasionally, care may be provided in an alternative hospital room due to capacity and safety.
Many parents treasure the time they were able to spend with their baby, and keepsakes can play and important role in the grieving process, following pregnancy loss or the death of a baby. Most parents find making memories and having such reminders afterwards a great comfort.
Our hospital offers a range of memory making opportunities, which includes photographs, memory boxes, inkless hand/footprints and clay imprints. Memory boxes are donated by the charities 4Louis, The Lily Mae Foundation and (SANDS). Aching Arms offer a beautiful comfort bear to fill parents’ arms as a gift from one bereaved family to another. We are also able to offer Ibraheem’s Gift packs – a culturally appropriate baby loss pack for Muslim parents – containing the immediate necessities that parents may need to help them prepare for their baby’s Muslim burial. These packs are provided by 4Louis.
We have some beautiful homemade knitted baby clothing which has been donated by our local knitting community. These are available for our bereaved families to have. Please speak to one of the bereavements midwives for more information.
Our hospital also works with many other charities that provide memory making opportunities to families; please ask the specialist bereavement midwives for further details.
Many families supported by our hospital have told us how thankful they were to spend time with their baby, bathing them, dressing them and making memories.
Please discuss with the midwives if you have any personal wishes you may wish to consider relating to capturing memories.
Families can bring in their own baby clothes and belongings or alternatively, we have a range of hats, clothing, nappies, moses baskets and blankets, knitted and donated by our volunteers, which are available for babies of all gestation. Please speak to one of the bereavement midwives for further information.
In Maternity, we have a ‘Book of Remembrance’ for babies. Parents can write a message or poem and add a picture of their baby, if they wish. The book is kept secure with the specialist bereavement midwives. Once families have written a message, they can give this to the Midwife to place in the book.
Our hospital’s chaplaincy team provides spiritual, pastoral and religious care to patients and their families. Whatever your circumstances or beliefs, you may find that you would value the opportunity to talk with someone in confidence about your feelings or thoughts. You do not have to be religious to talk to a chaplain. Our Chaplaincy Team are committed to care for each individual and to respect all people regardless of race, religion, creed or belief, gender, culture or lifestyle.
Our Chaplaincy Team are also able to provide a religious or non-religious naming ceremony or blessing for babies. Please talk to the midwife caring for you or the specialist bereavement midwives if you would like a blessing or naming ceremony for your baby.
This service is for women or birthing persons who live in Shropshire and Telford & Wrekin with moderate-severe or complex mental health difficulties associated with loss, grief and trauma directly arising from, or related to, the maternity experience. For example:
- Those who experience PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) following birth trauma
- Service users, their partners and families who have experienced a miscarriage, an ectopic pregnancy, a medical termination, a stillbirth or neonatal death
- Those with severe fear of childbirth (Tokophobia)
Any health professional, such as midwives, doctors and health visitors, can refer families to the Lighthouse Service.
While you are in hospital, our team will discuss with you the ongoing support you require and, with your consent, we will inform hospital and community healthcare staff of your baby’s passing. This will include community midwives, GP’s and health visitors.
Our hospital participates in the annual Baby Loss Awareness Week by lighting the outside of the hospital in pink and blue.
Further information on Baby Loss Awareness Week can be found here.
Gathering of remembrance events are held every six months by the Trust and are an opportunity for families who have suffered pregnancy loss or the death of a baby to gather and commemorate the lives of their babies.
The events have been resumed following a pause due to Covid-19 and are open to families of all faiths and beliefs and will include readings, reflection and the reading of names of children who have passed. Representatives from across our Maternity services and local communities will be in attendance.
The next Gathering of Remembrance will be held at 3pm on 9 October, marking the start of Baby Loss Awareness Week. The remembrance event will be held in Telford, children are welcome and activities will be available throughout the gathering for them.
If you would like to attend this event, please email firstname.lastname@example.org for further details and to register your attendance. If you are unable to attend but would still like to be involved in the gathering or have your child’s name read out, please contact email@example.com.
Have you or someone you know experienced a bereavement? Here are some support groups that might help you find the information you need.
Hope House Children’s Hospice
01691 671 999
IAPT (Improving Access to Psychological Therapies)
Telford and Wrekin: 01952 457415
Shropshire County: 0300 123 6020
Cruse Shropshire, Telford and Wrekin
Cruse Shropshire, Telford and Wrekin have volunteer counsellors trained by the Foundation for Infant loss. Parents or other family members can refer themselves on 0845 6066812. Their services are free of charge and via Zoom.
SANDS (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society)
Offers support and information for anyone affected by the death of a baby, before or after birth. National helpline, local parent-led support, literature, and online support.
Tel: 020 7436 7940 (general enquiries); Tel: 0808 164 3332 (support)
Shropshire SANDs is a local support group running friendly and relaxed meeting, providing bereaved parents, families and friends with an opportunity to meet others who have been through a similar experience.
Support meetings are held:
Where: Meeting Point House, Southwater Square, Telford TF3 4HS
When: 2nd Tuesday of each month 19:00-21:00hrs.
Support Group for dads
Dad Still Standing is an online group created as a way of helping other dads along their journey with grief. To discuss the difficulties they go through in bereavement, both in the immediate aftermath of baby loss and as time moves on.
Child Bereavement UK
Child Bereavement UK helps children, young people, parents and families to rebuild their lives when a child grieves or when a child dies. They support children and young people up to the age of 25 who are facing bereavement, and anyone affected by the death of a child of any age.
Helpline: 0800 0288840
Saying Goodbye Charity
Saying Goodbye provides comprehensive information, advice, support and much more to anyone who has suffered the loss of a baby, at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy.
Bereavement support after the death of a baby or child
Support: 0808 8026868
Lily Mae Foundation
Baby loss support service
01924 200 799
Multiple Births Foundation (MBF)
Provides support and information for multiple birth families (including bereavement support)
Aching Arms (Supporting Arms)
Aching Arms offers direct support to parents via their Supporting Arms support service, a telephone and email support service which is run by bereaved parents. The service offers families the chance to talk to someone who has an understanding of what they’re going through and helps them feel they’re not alone.
Remember My Baby Remembrance Photography
UK-based charity who have professional photographers who voluntarily provide their photography services to parents whose baby dies before, during or shortly after birth.
Freephone: 0808 189 2345
Offers confidential support that is available 24 hours a day to people who need to talk.
116 123 (UK) free
Miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth charity who offer support following a pregnancy loss
Baby loss information and support | Tommy’s (tommys.org)
Support: 0800 014 7800
Twins Trust Bereavement Support Group
Offers support for families who have lost one or more children from a multiple birth pregnancy, birth or at any time.
Offer support to bereaved children, their families and professionals
Helpline: 08088 020021
Funeral Payments – UK Government
Financial help that is available for individuals on low incomes in England, Wales and Scotland who need help to pay for a funeral that they are arranging
Jobcentre Plus-Bereavement Services Helpline
Provides information about benefit claims
Natural Death Centre
Offers support, guidance and advice for families and other individuals who are arranging a funeral, including information about environmentally friendly funerals and woodland burial sites.
Helpline: 01962 712690
Parental Bereavement Leave
Government scheme enabling parents who lose a baby or child to be entitled to parental leave (April 2020)